S2-E16: From Headaches to Harmony: The Power of Name Transformation

About the Guest: 

Lexa R. is a dynamic individual who has undergone an inspiring journey of personal growth through the concept of a balanced name. Hailing originally from the Eastern Caribbean, Lexa navigated cultural and personal challenges to realign her life with purpose. With a background enriched by diverse experiences, including marriage and raising children, Lexa made bold strides by changing her name—a decision that revitalized her health and clarity of mind. Currently residing in New York City, Lexa shares her transformative story, highlighting the profound impact of embracing balanced names.

Episode Summary:

In this compelling episode of "You Are Your Name," Daken speaks with Lexa R., who shares her riveting journey in discovering the power of a balanced name. Lexa's experience spans overcoming cultural resistance, embarking on a transformative personal journey, and nurturing her family's wellbeing through the recalibration of their names. As she explores the significant shifts in her health and mindset, Lexa's story is not only an inspiring personal narrative but also a profound insight into the nuances of identity and self-improvement.

Through her ten-year journey from initial discovery to name change, Lexa unfolds how deeply entwined one's name is with their overall wellness. Essential keywords like "balanced name," "cultural resistance," "personal transformation," and "health improvement" punctuate her journey, offering listeners profound insights into the cultural challenges and transformational benefits of adopting a balanced name. Lexa's shift from frequent health issues and scattered thinking to a life of clarity and calmness serves as a testament to the impactful changes instituted by listening to one's inner voice and embracing balance.

Key Takeaways:

• Cultural Resistance: Discover the challenges faced by Lexa due to Eastern Caribbean cultural norms surrounding name changes, highlighting broader social barriers.
• Transformational Health Benefits: Learn how Lexa's balanced name significantly improved her health, from reducing headaches to weight loss and improved eyesight.
• Empowerment Through Identity: See how aligning her name with herself led to calmness, clarity, and empowerment, underscoring the importance of identity in personal growth.
• Family Transformation: Understand how Lexa's decision positively impacted her children's lives, enhancing their focus, creativity, and health.
• Living with Intention: Witness Lexa's journey toward living intentionally and mitigating anxiety by listening to her inner self and prioritizing personal needs.

Notable Quotes:

• "Every time I brought it up, it was shut down. Oh, we don't have money for that now. Now is not the time."
• "I used to suffer with headaches, really intense headaches every week...but now...less than 10 headaches per year."
• "I feel now aligned. I feel aligned and with purpose and like my steps are guided."
• "It was my first name that had intense headaches...for him, it was his suffix, because we called him by his suffix, which was Junior."
• "Don't let fear or other people's opinions hold you back, because every day you delay is the day you stay misaligned."

Resources:

• Kabalarian Philosophy: www.kabalarians.com

Whenever you are ready, here are three ways we can help you:

1. Get a Balanced Name Recommendation to harmonize your names with your inner potential to improve their health, happiness, and success.

2. Learn the Principles of Mental Freedom in our online training program to create all the progressive improvements you seek in your life.

3. Let Kalex Solutions help you choose a balanced name for your business.  

Chapters

• 0:00 Lexa's Journey to Name Change and Personal Transformation
• 3:52 The Transformative Power of a Balanced Name
• 6:20 Transformative Power of Name Changes on Family Well-Being
• 7:57 Embracing Identity Through Name Changes in New York
• 9:36 Embrace Balance and Listen to Your Inner Voice

Transcript

Daken: Welcome to You Are Your Name. We are here with Lexa Rollins who's going to discuss her experiences with a balanced name. Thank you for joining us, Lexa.

Lexa: Oh, thank you so much. The pleasure is all mine Daken.

Daken: So how did you find out about the Mathematical Principle? You got a Name Report, I guess.

Lexa: Yeah, I got the Name Report and from receive a Name Report to an actual change of name, that was ten years. I have to forgive myself. I have not forgiven myself! Ten years! Ten years of wasted time. I've wasted ten years! But it was sort of difficult. 

Daken: Changing a name is quite a big deal. What gave you the confidence to go ahead after ten years? You finally realized you needed to do something?

Lexa: Yes, but where I come from in the Eastern Caribbean, a name change is not something that is easily accepted unless it's through marriage.  And at that time, I had just gotten married, just like two months ago before I made this discovery. So I didn't even know how to start that conversation. Right. I mean, it's not even a conversation. There's no conversation!

So when I did walk up the courage to have the conversation with the guy I was married to, it was difficult. It was strong resistance. I mean, you may get away double-barreling your maiden name with your marital name where I am from. That's the closest to the conversation you can get. But every time I brought it up, it was shut down. Oh, we don't have money for that now. Now is not the time. And then it was 2015. That's three years past when I discovered that I needed to change my name.

Daken: Sure.

Lexa: In one of your episodes I did hear someone from Barbados, a gentleman speaking. And he described the cultural resistance to name change and I felt really the same because that's the same exact thing. Because we are in the same region. I'm from the same region that he's from and I felt seen because I felt that. But being a woman, it was even heavier than what he described. You imagine same different countries, same region, same struggle.

And so at some point I found myself trying to live away from the negative sides of my name to offset it with affirmations, discipline, mindset shift. Of course you can't outrun imbalance. And then the years pass. Almost ten of them between first revelation and actual moment of change.

Then I left the marriage. And I had to start again from scratch with my three kids. And then one day at work in May of 2022, I got on the phone. I called the Kabalarians right away. I checked my budget. I couldn't afford it that month. The following month didn't look promising either. But I didn't care. I dropped that thing on a credit card. I was not wasting another second. I was done wasting time. I wasted enough. So again, I need to forgive myself. So we got the reports for me and my kids, all four of us.

Daken: Wonderful. So did you notice some changes once you balanced your name?

Lexa: The changes to my health were the most visible to me, and honestly the most surprising. I know now, without a doubt, that my former name, especially in my marital last name, played a part in my health declining. My eyesight declined, so I suddenly started wearing glasses. I didn't attribute that to the name. But with the knowledge, I understood it. And after changing my name, I noticed I didn't rely on them as much.

I used to suffer with headaches, really intense headaches for weeks. I literally would walk around with a bottle of pain medicine everywhere I go. I had a bottle of pain medicine. But now, since using the name, I have less than ten headaches per year.

Daken: Wow.

Lexa: That's from four and five headaches per week to less than ten headaches per year. Also, I became overweight by 40 pounds with that name. Since using the balanced name, I dropped thirty of those forty pounds. I still have ten more to go.

Daken: Well, that's pretty good advertisement. That'll be an incentive for people to balance their names. Right?

Lexa: Right. Yeah. I did battle with some intense anxiety because I would worry so much. Neglect myself for others. But today I'm mostly calm. I move with intention and I take good care of myself. But it wasn't just in my health I saw changes. I saw my mind was calm. I used to be scattered, overloaded. Because I had a lot of names, right? Let's say, I don't want to say what my previous name was, but let's say my name was Janet Lana Dixon. And this is a random name, understand. Sure. Janet Lana Dixon. So I was Janet at school, Lana at home and as my network grew, I became Jan, J. Even JD. And then I got married and here was another name, right. And then I lived abroad and they um, one of the letters in my name was nothing there alphabet. So that was a different pronunciation. I had so many names hitting me at the same time, not realizing what this was actually doing to me. That was very profound. Each one did affect my life, my health, my prosperity.

And now that I have a balanced name, everything's quiet. My thinking became calm and clear. I react instead of overreacting. I react with intention and purpose. I can separate emotion from logic, and stop feeling like life was happening to me. I feel now aligned. I feel aligned and with purpose, and like my steps are guided. I feel like a whole new person.

Daken: That's wonderful. Now, you changed your children's names too as well?

Lexa: I did. Yes. Yes.

Daken: What changes did you see with your youngsters?

Lexa: So when it came to the kids, I kind of thought hard about my approach because, you know, this is a big thing. It's a name and they're young. I have to break down for them to understand what's going on. So we had a family meeting in the living room. And I had printed their original names out. And I started with my son because he was eldest. And I looked at them as they read through their reports of the old names as they recognized themselves and what they were seeing. My son had gotten to this section where it mentioned intense headaches. You recall me just saying that I had intense headaches. So what we would've said back then, "Oh, it's in the family." But it's not in the family. It's in the name. Because for me it was my first name that had intense headaches. And for him it was his suffix. 'cause we called him by his suffix, which was Junior Jr.

Daken: Oh, okay.

Lexa: And that's why he was having the intense headaches and he was having 3, 4, 5 headaches per week as a teenager. And it was really bad. So he was first on board and then his two sisters just jumped right in line. So I've noticed real changes. Uh, my son's headaches disappeared and his focus and confidence grew and my daughters became bolder, more expressive. They were using their hands in much more creative ways; painting, making clothing, experimenting with ideas. So definitely I know for sure we are on the right path here.

Daken: That's wonderful. Was it a difficult process where you were living to change your name?

Lexa: So I live now in New York City. It's actually quite straightforward here. It takes usually up to three months. Sometimes it can go over to six months. But honestly, I didn't wait for paperwork to start living in my new name. From the day I received it, I start using it right away. And one of the things I love here in New York is how accommodating it is to use a preferred name.

Daken: Mm-hmm.

Lexa: Right? So you can use a preferred name at school, at work. You don't have to present anything legal. I notice in job applications when there are vacancies advertised, there is a spot for preferred names or chosen names aside from your legal name, which is a good thing.

Daken: Mm-hmm. Absolutely.

Lexa: Right. So, but I'm able to use my balanced name everywhere I go.

Daken: Good, good.

Lexa: And quite easily. Yeah.

Daken: So what advice would you give to someone who is considering a balanced name now?

Lexa: Oh my gosh. So, like I said, I've had multiple names all my life, different versions of me for different places, different people, different cultures. Different cultures. So looking back, maybe I give too much relevance to what others thought and to not to myself and what my spirit needed. And I think my life could have been in a completely different space if I had found the courage sooner.

So my advice is simple. Don't waste time. If you already feel that pull toward balance, that's your spirit speaking. Listen to it. Don't wait for perfect timing and don't let fear other people's opinions. hold you back because every day you delay is the day you stay misaligned. That's my advice. Don't miss time.

Daken: Good advice. Are there any, thoughts you might want to share about learning the Principle in terms of how it's helped you? You enrolled in the courses. Has that helped?

Lexa: It has helped me tremendously. I can't even say it. I, it is, it, it's good knowledge. It's good to know. It's good to understand myself. It's good to understand others and people on my job. And it's, it's a whole new world. I really enjoy it. I take heed in everything I, I read in the classes. I print the lessons out. I'm studying it. The information is so valuable. I wish everyone could get a hold of it. What a beautiful wall it would be.

Daken: Well, that's great. Lexa, do you have any final comments you'd like to share with everyone?

Lexa: Well, if anyone here listening to me is on the fence, just listen to that quiet voice inside and don't wait for permission or perfect timing. The perfect timing is right now. Don't waste time.

Daken: Good advice. Well, thank you for sharing your experiences and I'm sure that'll encourage others to do the same.

Lexa: Thank you so much. Thank you.