S3-E17: Getting others to acknowledge newly balanced names?

In this episode we answer, "How do I deal with people who will not acknowledge my newly adopted balanced names?"

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Transcript

INTERVIEW:

Daken: Welcome to Season 3 of You Are Your Name. In this season, we are asking a Kabalarian Name Consultant various questions on balanced names.

So my guest today is Marlowe Shearing. She's a staff member at the head office of the Kabalarian Philosophy. You've probably recognize her. She was involved in (Season 1) Episode 3 where she analyzed the names of Mark, Harry, Jack, and Richard. She did the name analysis in (Season 1) Episode 8 on Betty, Bess, and Louise. And she did the analysis in (Season 1) Episode 15 on Maureen, Enid, Jenny, Leigh, and Terry. So thanks for joining us Marlowe.

Marlowe: Thank you for having me.

Daken: So the question today is, "How do I deal with people who will not acknowledge my newly adopted balanced names?"

Marlowe: Such a big question because when we change our name, we are making a decision to change our life. We're taking a new road, a new path, an undiscovered path, a path that isn't recognized easily by others. And the reactions, the questions are natural and yet if we are going to make this change, our minds have to be really firm on the reason that we're making the change. And that quality of reason and thought of why we are making this change has to be made firmly and with confidence. And so whether you take extra time to study the Life Analysis Training program, that you have to be really confident in your mind that this is the right decision for you.

And so when you present your new name, it has to be done de facto. That you're not going to accept a nickname. You're not going to allow a person to call you your old name because you know they had so much to do with you in your younger life and they're not going to be able to make that change. Our minds have to be firm in that decision that this is my new name. And there are people that have given us our beginnings in life and raised us and invested so much time and effort and we have that love and that sense of appreciation for them as human beings and as our parents are whatever part in their life that they played.

But life is such a unique experience, that we're born into life for an individual purpose beyond self. And so the feelings of family and "I don't want you to do that," or "I don't think you should make that change?" "Are you sure that it's not a trap?" "Are you sure that you know this is right?" Or, "You might go ahead and do that, but I'm not going to call you that name. I'll only recognize you by this name." All those are feelings. And feelings are relatable, we all have them. But the decision of mind when we change our name is such that we are taking a new path. We're forging ahead for a new opportunity. And that name must be recognized as a quality of truth. And then that is the name that we are going to accept.

So as we make these changes, as hard as this sounds, that decision is then, "Well, thank you for that, and thank you for everything that you've done for me. But now I'm going to make this change and I won't be able to have the same close association with you until you can accept that this is the change that I'm deciding upon and call me my new name."

So life is changing and you are making a decision and you're going down a new road. And that road has to be one of freedom; freedom for that inner potential, freedom for that opportunity of that new name, freedom for the joy that you have been told in your Balanced Name Report that could be ahead for you. And so as you leave certain individuals possibly behind, or set their close association aside for a period of time as you forge ahead. Later on in your life, you will find that there will be a recognition or cognizance of "Gee, I apologize for not having respected that decision. I can see now that the changes have been positive and it wasn't right that I questioned them."

Possibly a way of discussing, you know, someone that doesn't want to accept your new name is to say, "How long have you known me and how many rash decisions have I made? This is something that I've carefully thought out. And I sense that this is going to be the best thing for my future. And if you love me, just give me this opportunity. Just call me my new name and see if there are changes."

It's a tough one, and there are people that don't want to see change, that they like the status quo. They like the old you and what you've shared. And again, that's feeling. So we have to have the knowledge. and that knowledge or that firm decision is what gives our mind the confidence to then say, "These are the parameters of my life as I move ahead and thank you for respecting them."

So that's a few thoughts.

Daken: That's very clear. So I imagine everyone would react differently based on the mathematics of their old unbalanced name. So some people who might have very strong five-ish qualities would, you know, tend to react and just sort of say, "Well, I'm cutting you outta my life," type of thing. But the whole point is to try to be the new balanced name and show and demonstrate that equanimity and that balance. So you respect them, but as you say, be very firm that the balanced name is going be in your best interest. So you don't really want to let them use the old name.

Marlowe: You don't want to burn your bridges either through being unkind or dismissive, retaliatory, any of those things. But with love, you have to say, "This is the new me and I would like to move ahead and I would respect and appreciate your ability to see this as a new opportunity for me. Humor me in calling me my new name."

We had an aunt visit us and I was about 8 years old, and she asked me about and then she named a name. I said, "Who are you referring to?" And she said, "Your mom," who was her sister. And I said, "That's not my mom's name." And I was confused. But for all those years, since my mother had changed her name, had children, I was about 8, there was never the appreciation that she had made a change.

And I, as a youngster said to her, "If you loved my mom, you would call her her new name." And because she was staying with us or because I made that comment, now her sister recognized the new name after all those years. And you look at it and you think, "Well, that's the way life should be. That people, individuals, choose their path in life and whatever they choose, others must respect that decision through their mind." 

And there's discussion and back and forth and questions. And all those things bring greater intelligence or greater understanding. But disrespect and "I will not..." those are emotional feelings. And then we have to have the strength of mind to make a firm decision to move on from there.

Daken: I think that's covered very well. Thank you, Marlowe.

Marlowe: You're welcome.

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For our next episode, we're going to discuss the question, can you explain the services of Kalex Solutions for my business? So until then, happy thoughts.